I recently asked my Instagram followers to ask me some questions for a question and answers post. One question really stuck out to me and that was ‘Do you have any regrets?’ from the lovely Folakemi at peacockscanfly.com I thought this question deserved its own post.
So first of all what is regret? The Oxford English Dictionary defines regret as a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over an occurrence or something that one has done or failed to do.
Admittedly I have regretted many things over time, but looking back I have to say I have no regrets. I don’t wish that I had done things differently or had said yes to an opportunity instead of no.
I don’t regret getting into what would turn into a toxic and abusive relationship (even after how I saw how he treated his ex).
I don’t regret moving out of my parent’s house and moving into what resembled what I can only imagine what a crack den looks like.
I don’t regret getting engaged to a loose cannon after only a few weeks of knowing him.
I don’t regret going completely off the rails after the engagement broke down and sleeping with a bunch of random guys.
I don’t regret putting all my time and energy into a waste of space for a year a who managed to get fired from McDonald’s.
I don’t regret leaving a stable job to ‘find myself’ only to jump from job to job and end up back at that stable job.
I could go on, I guess what I am trying to say is that I have done plenty of things that most would regret, and I made the wrong decision so many times. But if I hadn’t done those things I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I probably wouldn’t have made the decision to become a blogger. I’m glad I went through all of that shit because if I hadn’t I wouldn’t have met any of the people I have met and I wouldn’t have any of the friends I have.
Don’t live your life regretting the negative things, but look at what positive things that have come about because of those decisions.